Ok, so youve broken up and now you want your ex back. This is a common occurrence. Sometimes it takes a break up to make us realize all that we had. We actually learn and develop emotionally through break ups. The emotional pain often teaches us to behave better in the future. This is a good thing!
So now you may find yourself wanting to improve the relationship, if only you can get them back. How do you go about getting them back?
There are several different ways to get your ex back. Fortunately, you aren't the only person who has messed up with their mate and now wants them back. Millions have passed this way before you and there are some strategies you can use to help you get your ex back, no matter what caused the break up.
Obviously, what caused the break up will determine which strategy you need to get your ex back. If you got cheated on your by your ex you will need a different repair method than if they dumped you because they lost interest and got bored. Each break up needs a different initial form of repair.
Here is one strategy that will work in many cases, particularly after a few weeks or more has passed since the break up. If things have calmed down and your ex no longer flies into a rage when you talk to them, this approach can work wonders. The approach is PLAY. Playing with your ex is a great way to begin to get them back into your life. By that I mean you call them to do fun things together that you think they might like. If they like to ski, you can call and say Hey, I know were broken up and all, but I want to go skiing this Saturday and need a buddy, will you fill in, no strings attached, just a ski day?
The key is to tell them right from the beginning that you know they've broken up with you. That way, they are less likely to be suspicious about your motivations. If they get that you understand and aren't trying to manipulate them or pressure them, they are much more likely to say yes. Then you go have fun and play together for a bit. The more you have some playtime with your ex, the more happily they will think of you. After a few dates, you may find yourself naturally getting back together.
What did you like to do together before you broke up? Dancing, biking, hiking, there may be any number of ways to invite your ex to play with you. Having fun is one of the strongest ways to emotionally bond with someone. Obviously, you may need to take care of some other issues before your ex will accept an invitation from you to play, but play is a great way to begin to get back into their heart.
So now you may find yourself wanting to improve the relationship, if only you can get them back. How do you go about getting them back?
There are several different ways to get your ex back. Fortunately, you aren't the only person who has messed up with their mate and now wants them back. Millions have passed this way before you and there are some strategies you can use to help you get your ex back, no matter what caused the break up.
Obviously, what caused the break up will determine which strategy you need to get your ex back. If you got cheated on your by your ex you will need a different repair method than if they dumped you because they lost interest and got bored. Each break up needs a different initial form of repair.
Here is one strategy that will work in many cases, particularly after a few weeks or more has passed since the break up. If things have calmed down and your ex no longer flies into a rage when you talk to them, this approach can work wonders. The approach is PLAY. Playing with your ex is a great way to begin to get them back into your life. By that I mean you call them to do fun things together that you think they might like. If they like to ski, you can call and say Hey, I know were broken up and all, but I want to go skiing this Saturday and need a buddy, will you fill in, no strings attached, just a ski day?
The key is to tell them right from the beginning that you know they've broken up with you. That way, they are less likely to be suspicious about your motivations. If they get that you understand and aren't trying to manipulate them or pressure them, they are much more likely to say yes. Then you go have fun and play together for a bit. The more you have some playtime with your ex, the more happily they will think of you. After a few dates, you may find yourself naturally getting back together.
What did you like to do together before you broke up? Dancing, biking, hiking, there may be any number of ways to invite your ex to play with you. Having fun is one of the strongest ways to emotionally bond with someone. Obviously, you may need to take care of some other issues before your ex will accept an invitation from you to play, but play is a great way to begin to get back into their heart.
About the Author:
You can discover other Powerful Proven Methods to get your ex back in a book about Get Your Ex Back Within One Week. John Laney teaches relationship skills and you can get a free course here on Relationship Help For Marriage Troubles.
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