Crafting a life book may seem like a overwhelming task. If you aren't a particular crafty person or don't have much information about your child's life before he or she became a part of your life, it can be hard to figure out where to start.
Adoptive families vary in the extent of information they may have about birthmother of their child. While some families actually have the birth mother over to baby sit the child occasionally, others meet at a park for a few hours each year. Other families have no relationship with the birth family, perhaps even nothing more than a name on paper if that.
Oftentimes a family may have more than one adopted child the birth moms of the different children have different relationships with the family-if any. So the involved birth mom may even send notes or small gifts to the sibling of the child, so everyone feels included and loved.
When you have a relationship with a birthmom you may have any information you want for your child's adoption book. She may be eager to help out to make sure the child has a wonderful book.
If you are an adoptive parent who doesn't have much information about your child's birth or birth family, don't worry. You can still make a book that shares whatever you know and helps complete your child's history.
For example, one of the most essential pages of the life book is about the biological mother, but you may not even have a photograph of her. Be sure to include a quotation or poem about how birth moms may feel when making the adoption choice for their child. Then write something for the book like, "Did you know that birth moms and dads give their special DNA to their children. I'll be your beautiful smile and dark eye lashes came from your mom!"
It's hard for most people to imagine, but many adoptive parents don't even know the birthdate of their child or where he or she was born. Rather than writing, "We don't know the date of your birth" in your child' adoption album, journal something along the lines of, "We believe you were born during the winter of 2005 some time because when you came to the orphanage you weighed about the same as the other children born about that time."
Don't forget that it's not the amount of information that will make your album complete, but the love and effort that you put into the adoption book that your child will notice most. As your child grows older and asks more questions about his place of origin, you can do research together to help answer his questions. But don't put off creating an adoption life book because you don't have all the information you wish you had. Children love reading about themselves and they even enjoy making up their own stories to fill in some of the blanks.
Adoptive families vary in the extent of information they may have about birthmother of their child. While some families actually have the birth mother over to baby sit the child occasionally, others meet at a park for a few hours each year. Other families have no relationship with the birth family, perhaps even nothing more than a name on paper if that.
Oftentimes a family may have more than one adopted child the birth moms of the different children have different relationships with the family-if any. So the involved birth mom may even send notes or small gifts to the sibling of the child, so everyone feels included and loved.
When you have a relationship with a birthmom you may have any information you want for your child's adoption book. She may be eager to help out to make sure the child has a wonderful book.
If you are an adoptive parent who doesn't have much information about your child's birth or birth family, don't worry. You can still make a book that shares whatever you know and helps complete your child's history.
For example, one of the most essential pages of the life book is about the biological mother, but you may not even have a photograph of her. Be sure to include a quotation or poem about how birth moms may feel when making the adoption choice for their child. Then write something for the book like, "Did you know that birth moms and dads give their special DNA to their children. I'll be your beautiful smile and dark eye lashes came from your mom!"
It's hard for most people to imagine, but many adoptive parents don't even know the birthdate of their child or where he or she was born. Rather than writing, "We don't know the date of your birth" in your child' adoption album, journal something along the lines of, "We believe you were born during the winter of 2005 some time because when you came to the orphanage you weighed about the same as the other children born about that time."
Don't forget that it's not the amount of information that will make your album complete, but the love and effort that you put into the adoption book that your child will notice most. As your child grows older and asks more questions about his place of origin, you can do research together to help answer his questions. But don't put off creating an adoption life book because you don't have all the information you wish you had. Children love reading about themselves and they even enjoy making up their own stories to fill in some of the blanks.
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